All These Areas Are Within Easy Reach of The Haven Healing Centre, Blagdon, Bristol
To book your ANGER Counselling Session at a convenient time, call: 01761 462722
Abbots Leigh
Ashwick
Avonmouth
Axbridge
Babington
Backwell
Badgworth
Bagley
Banwell
Barrow Gurney
Bason Bridge
Bath
Beckington
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Biddisham
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Bitton
Blackford
Blagdon
Bleadon
Bleadney
Bradford-on-Avon
Brean
Brent Knoll
Bristol
Burnham-on-Sea
Burrington
Butcombe
Cameley
Catcott
Chantry
Chapel Allerton
Cheddar
Chelwood
Chew Magna
Chew Stoke
Chilcompton
Churchill
Clapton
Claverham
Claverton
Cleeve
Clevedon
Clutton
Cocklake
Coleford
Compton Bishop
Compton Dando
Compton Martin
Congresbury
Coxley
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Cross
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East Brent
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East Huntspill
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Godney
Green Ore
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Highbridge
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Kenn
Kewstoke
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Anger Management-
Training and Counselling
• Free yourself from the grip of anger.
• Has anger become a large part of your life?
• Are you ruining your relationship because of anger?
• Need help and don't know where to turn?
There is no doubt that uncontrolled anger ruins lives!
It destroys families, it ruins relationships, it alienates your friends and family who think you're just a big kid trying to get their own way, or worse, a damned bully who they'd rather not know. You start by wondering what all the fuss is about, but eventually you get the message that people you care about don't like you! Every time you 'blow your top', somebody else, who probably loves you very much, is dying inside.
What will counselling at The Haven Healing Centre do for me?
You will learn what anger is, how to control your own anger, and how to rebuild your relationships, both at home and at work. I will help you look at how your anger affects you personally, discuss details of how you display your anger and the timings of your anger, what triggers your anger and perhaps who is mainly on the receiving end of your anger. Sometimes this will be the person who has asked you to go for counselling, or sometimes a person, (male or female) becomes introspective and really wants to take stock of their lives, to take a long hard look, in a critical way, at their lives and where it is going.
This is when you perhaps first realize that most other people have more friends than you do. Perhaps they are invited out more and have more fun than you do. Perhaps you see other people as more contented than you, and things don't bother them so much as they do you. It is at times like these that you may decide to refer yourself for counselling.
Why is anger so wrong? It makes me feel powerful!
Anger is not wrong. Whatever gave you that idea? No, it's not anger that is wrong, it's what you do with it that is causing you grief. Look, if someone throws a brick through your window, you have every right to be angry at them. If you get ripped off at a market stall, or your ID is stolen and your credit card used fraudulently, anger is a natural reaction. If you get cut up at a roundabout and the other driver just drives off not even realizing, you may swear at them, show a finger, or you can become tense and upset. You know that anger is a problem for you when you go tearing after them to 'hug' their bumper, overtake them or cut them up in return. On the other hand, anger can, at times, keep you safe, provide you with inspiration, give you endurance and make your point very effectively.
Anger makes you feel powerful because its basis is energy. Anger is energy. Have you noticed how, when you get angry you feel energized? Your body gets a tremendous hit of adrenaline. it's the use to which you put that anger and energy that determines whether it is good or bad. So don't look at your anger as good or bad, right or wrong, just look at it as there, as something you have to deal with, before it deals with you.
One thing is certain when it comes to anger, and in particular, uncontrolled anger. Either you gain control over it, or it will take over where you don't want it too, and it may even destroy your life altogether. This will be the case already for hundreds, or thousands of people, who will eventually read this article.
Where did my temper come from?
I don't even remember when it first started.
There can be 10,000 answers to this question. Because it is different for everyone. This is part of the art of counselling, figuring out the triggers. One of the best ways of finding out is to ask yourself, or someone close to you, 'How long have I had these anger tantrums?', or 'when did you first notice that I was developing a problem controlling my anger?'.
In a marital relationship, this may receive a response like, 'When your mother/father died' or 'when you were made redundant from your job at .....'. Sometimes a partner will say, 'You've always been a hot head, at least, ever since I've known you'. It's worth noting here that for many people coping with anger is a lifelong struggle.
You don't have to spend the rest of your life struggling with your anger, hurting yourself and everyone around you. Learn to deal with your anger in different and more effective ways. Break the habitual way you react to certain situations. Stop arguing over trivia. Learn better ways to handle frustration and disappointment. Learn to relax, chill out and listen to others opinions. Become more flexible and become a happier, healthy person to your whole family.
Some anger treatment options you may have already tried
- Beating cushions - This can be useful if you normally express your anger physically
- Punch bag - (as used by a boxer) at least this is designed to be abused and will last longer
- Writing down your feelings - can be useful to dissipate emotions or put things in perspective
- Drawing - same as writing, but can give a visual expression and therefore a clue to the reasons for your anger
- Internet - Go online and beat the crap out of another online gamer using your mouse and keyboard (I've known many keyboards that have decorated a wall, however briefly, using this strategy, so use with caution)
- Exercise - This I do go along with. Exercise, regular exercise, is the great lifter of spirit, balance, emotional stability, health and wellbeing
- Dancing - Dancing is just exercise, but for many it really represents 'letting the hair down' and exposing oneself to potential criticism
- Talking - Talking too is a great tool for analysis. It helps toward finding the triggers, and if we're lucky, the original trigger
- Laughter - Go on, give it a try sometime. It is impossible to be angry when you are laughing
- Tell Jokes - Humour is the great diffuser, and is as above but with words. The end result of a good joke is usually a jolly good laugh
- Music - Play some of your favourite music. Close your eyes and become absorbed in it, carried away with notes and voices
- Relax - Use a breathing technique and find a way to relax. If you don't know how, this CD will help you
- Walking - This follows on from exercise. Try combining walking with mp3 music, or, when you have walked and found a quiet place to sit, your CD
- Cycling - Tennis, golf, football, squash, badmington, snooker,
darts (actually, leave darts alone for the time being), but you get the idea
- Yoga - This is a great way to find control in one's life
- I do question the efficacy of some of these ideas as all they do is provide a more suitable outlet for anger without actually dealing with the problem. In other words, it's not a problem that your anger is out of control, provided you vent it this way, and not that way. This to me is not very helpful, as it doesn't address the problem of what your anger is doing to you mentally and physically. Mostly, I do not use these types of treatment.
The effects of anger
Anger affects the body negatively in many ways. It causes stress, it ties your stomach in knots, you can shake, sweat, have palpitations and panic. Your friends eventually leave you, you become lonely and very negative. Your health begins to suffer and may even be destroyed through early heart conditions, stress related illness, digestive illness and pain. You begin to lose respect for yourself and you face rejection from all sides. Man was not meant to live this way.
Most angry people don't even realize they are angry. They have lived with it for so long that they don't know when they are angry and when they are calm. They don't regard their feelings as unusual. All an angry person cares about is winning, at any cost, and will go out of their way to put another person down just to win. What they don't realize is that uncontrolled anger hurts you as well as everybody else around you.
Anger can make you or break you. How you deal with your anger will make you honest to yourself and help you to feel good inside. That's a worthy ambition as anything else leads to hate and trouble.
Further reading on this site:
More info on Anger: http://www.distanthealer.co.uk/anger.htm
My final message to you is this: If you are worried that your anger is getting worse, or if your anger problems have come back to hurt you, then the sooner you do something about it, the better. Anger is not just a promoter of ill-health, it can produce relationship problems, employment problems, communication problems with your children, stress and sometimes even self harm. Early treatment is recommended. Don't wait! The sooner we start treatments, the sooner you are likely to see improvement in your condition. If you live in any of the towns and villages on the left of this article, you are well within a 2-40 minute drive of The Haven Healing Centre, and I'd be delighted to see you.
Please call Phil Chave on 01761 462722 to make your appointment or to talk about a treatment plan structured around your needs. Singles or couples are welcome.
Don't wait. Make your appointment today. You'll be glad you did!
P.S. If you or your partner are having relationship problems because of anger, and you want to change, pick up the phone and give me a call! I can see you at your convenience, in a confidential and safe environment, where you can talk freely and openly, and I will personally teach you, and hand you the tools and techniques you will need for success. If you want to write first, please use the email address below.
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Philip Chave © 2008-
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